Would you really love yourself more if you weighed less or had 6-pack abs?

by purelytwins

Raising your own consciousness and being aware of your own intentions are important steps in starting to have a stronger, more positive body image.

It’s okay if you want to change something about your body and take steps to get there. But. This is a big but. You need to make sure you are doing it without coming from a place of self-hate or the idea of trying to “fix” something that’s wrong with you. Because there is nothing wrong with you.

We did that.

For years we did things with the thought something had to be “fixed” about us.  We worked out because we felt like we needed to look a certain way to fit in or be accepted and to make us feel less guilty over what we were eating or how much we were eating. All that negative behavior and stress actually made it harder for us to get the results we wanted. We never felt fully satisfied or happy with our bodies even when we got to the “weight” we wanted.

It wasn’t until we started to look within to find the answers. To find ourselves. To find our self-worth.

Working out with the right intention will lead to better body acceptance and positivity

We think of fitness now as a mind-body connection.  You don’t see true lasting results until you change your mindset.

You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.

Many people who want to get in shape don’t realize there is more to working out than well-toned muscles.

The problem is that most people do things because they believe that having x,y and z will bring them happiness.

We thought that. We were those girls who were afraid of gaining weight. We would workout for hours hoping we wouldn’t gain any weight. We thought if we weighed a certain number or had perfectly flat abs all the time we would be truly happy and love ourselves completely.

Basically we were telling ourselves we would stay unhappy and feeling unworthy until we reached that goal weight.  We weren’t good enough the way we were, so we’d workout for 2 hours thinking then when we would look better THEN we could be happier. WRONG.

Can you relate?

Maybe you catch yourself saying the same thing. It’s okay if you do. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person.

It’s our subconscious messages that are hurting our progress.  There are limiting beliefs holding us back.

We realized if we couldn’t love our bodies as they are now, would we really love them when we reached our ideal goal?

We learned that if we didn’t appreciate our bodies now, we never would, no matter what weight we were at or what our abs looked like. Because when we got there we would still find something to pick on and try to “fix”.

It starts with slowly changing the way you think and speak to yourself in order to  start changing those subconscious messages. We had to work through our limiting beliefs to breakthrough to get to the point we are at today.

When you workout for the intention to “fix” something that you hate about your body tends to come with a lot of negativity, self sabotage and obsessive behaviors, and comparison trap with others (that was totally us).

Over the years when we started to change how we worked out it jump started our new mindsets around our bodies and fitness.  This mental shift didn’t happen overnight. It took time.

We changed our intentions with our workouts. Instead of always wanting 6-pack abs we focused more on overall strength, agility, flexibility and speed which made it fun and easier to sustain for life. On top of that we focused on the long-term benefits of working out like getting better sleep, reduced stressed levels, lower blood pressure, etc.

When we started to cultivate more love of movement and having an intention with each of our workouts this improved our mind-body connection.

We wanted to bring that same mindset shift here to Purely Twins community. This is one reason why we started bringing in mantras into our weekly workouts because having a positive mind is so important in being successful. We have experienced this firsthand and wanted you to have the same results. 

When we started to have the right intention with our workouts it led to more enthusiasm, consistency, enjoyment and gratitude to be able to move our bodies.

We also brought this same mind-body fitness approach to our Purely Fit Life online sisterhood club with weekly mantras and inspirational quotes. It has been amazing to see the inner strength our clients are gaining from it. They are starting to follow their dreams, talk to themselves differently and be more mindful with their workouts.  They are learning to trust and understand their bodies.

Would you really love yourself more if you weighed less or had 6-pack abs? We realized if we couldn't love our bodies as it is now, would we really love it when we reached our ideal goal? Maybe you feel the same way. Do you feel like you always have to fix something? You might have some limiting beliefs or doubts, we share how changing our intention with our workouts helped us make a more positive shift with our body image.

Okay, now you might be thinking, “But I do want flatter looking abs.  Is that bad that I want that?”

No. You can have external goals but you also need to have internal goals. It’s the internal goals that keep you motivated and moving forward even during the hard times.

A few years ago we only focused on the external goals when we worked out. We became obsessed with how we looked (this is what we hope to prevent other ladies from doing or helping them break that habit). It wasn’t until our skin, digestion and hormones started going crazy that we had a huge wake up call that our body was telling us to start focusing on us, internally.

We feel once you have a good self-image about yourself (starting from the inside) then you can focus on some external things, like bigger biceps.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have leaner arms and wanting to feel stronger in your workouts.

Just make sure you are always coming from a place of admiration, compassion and curiosity.  Not from a place of judgments or feeling not good enough.

Like with your food choices, it doesn’t mean you are a bad person for eating chocolate cake. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person for wanting leaner legs.

We want you to focus first on changing your inner self before you get obsessed with your outer self.  Your self-worth comes from within you, not if you have abs or not.

We want you to start approaching your workouts as training to gain something not lose something.

You've been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. Louise Hay

Ask yourself are there any fears, doubts or limiting beliefs that came into mind that are getting in my way of reaching exactly what I want?

Write this fear down on paper.

Then turn that negative thought into a more positive one.  Write your affirmation (your mantra) in the present tense. Make sure to use feeling words. Say this affirmation every day before you workout and really feel it.

Do that for awhile and see how it takes away the pressure and helps you start to gain more body acceptance in yourself.

Doing something like this for yourself will bring more positivity into your life which will trickle into other areas of your life.

When you are really in a state of appreciation (and compassion) for your body, you will start to listen to your body in a different way.

You will take different action steps.

You will start to treat your body with love and want to nourish it with good foods, movement, positivity and compassion.

We now love our bodies, listen to our bodies and make different conscious decisions based on the love for our bodies.  Now we’ve been able to maintain a healthy weight for our bodies for over 4 years and no longer feel unhappy or unworthy based off how we look.

You have the choice to change the way you look and talk to your body.

Are you ready to change your mindset around movement?

TODAY to quickly change your state of mind and start to build long term confidence. 

If you want to work with us more closely and get some of our best workouts and tips  make sure to sign up for our waitlist to join our Purely Fit Life online sisterhood to be first notified when doors will be open again.


Lori and Michelle

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Cassie February 20, 2016 - 12:13 am

Even with weight loss I still had awful body image days. Body perception does not change with size unless you make it that way!

purelytwins February 20, 2016 - 9:13 pm


Ruth Deaton February 20, 2016 - 11:11 am

The weekly mantras are the best! Thank you for sharing every one of them. I always look forward to them each week 🙂

purelytwins February 20, 2016 - 9:14 pm

aw thanks girl glad you enjoy them!

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